Observing Gender Communication Differences Essay
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Several weeks ago I observed a woman at the Mall. She and a young man sitting directly across from each other were engaged in what was apparently a mutual flirting. But the younger man seemed much more confident and cocky than did the woman. For one thing, he was more relaxed and calm. The woman, however, kept her arms folded over a bag that she was holding on to very tightly. The woman also had a strong tendency to look down more often than the man. Although her admiration for him was obvious, she seemed to be trying hard to conceal it. Often women seem to be more noticeably shy than men. Non-verbally, their “body language'; seems to communicate their feelings of great uncertainty and self-consciousness.
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Men seem to speak more nasally and some women seem to have a better control over the English language. Over the course of a few days, I noticed significantly fewer “ums'; and “errs'; from women than I did from men. This did not necessarily indicate that they presented themselves more confidently, just with greater fluency.
Men have a tendency to use their hands more often while speaking than do women. In one my observed instances, several guys and girls had gathered at my friend’s house to eat dinner, and the amount of hand motions and gestures that the guys were using seemed to be infinite. One guy frank practically drew out an entire picture of his car in the air while describing it to the other guys. Meanwhile, the girls’ hands remained on their food or their drink or on the table. Girls nodded much more than guys—but made no other gesture with as much frequency.
Finally, it can be inferred from my observations that certain cultural models cause the witnessed patterns of speaking and communication. Women are “taught'; to be shy and infererior—and this is evidenced in their non-verbal coyness while speaking in a one-to-one situation with males. But men are taught that over-happiness is “queer'; and so smiles are not nearly as common on the males’ face as they are on the females’ face. Both sexes certainly seem to enjoy talking—but each is more comfortable in their own
Show MoreA lot of attention has been dedicated to the thought that women and men communicate very differently from one another. In this paper I am going to discuss the gender differences in communications between the opposite sexes. Many believe that gender plays a major role in communication but in all reality, that isn’t the case. Several factors play a part in how someone communicates with another person regardless of their sex. The main question is what role does gender play in communication or is it the roles our cultures put on genders’. In my opinion, it is the way we were raised that affects the way we communicate.
Do men and women really speak different languages? Well according to the Men are from Mars and Women from Venus…show more content…
Benjamin Spock, Children look to their parents for examples and role models. If a girl sees her mother taking part in physical activities, she will most likely grow up with the idea that it's okay for girls to be involved in physical activities. Another example of parents being influencing role models is, if a boy sees his father helping to take care of the new baby, he will incorporate this image of "daddy as care giver" into his developing a definition of masculinity. Parents can also be a negative influence as well. For example, children who grow up with parents who are in an abusive relationship have been found to repeat the same pattern as adults: male children of abusive husbands often grow up to abuse their own wives, and daughters of abused wives can grow up to be victims of domestic violence, because their parents have shown them that this is "normal” (Spock & Parker, 1998). Gender Roles have changed throughout history. It doesn’t just affect personal lives but also the work place, and culture.
Gender Roles in the past were that the husband worked to become the provider for the family and the wife would stay home to tend to the household and family. But over time this started changing. In 1970, Broverman, Clarkson, Rosenkrantz, and Vogel administered a Stereotype Questionnaire to 79 male and female clinically trained psychologists, psychiatrists, and social workers. The study concluded that sex bias was demonstrated in that clinicians' trait